When you want to be successful at something as bad as you want to breathe when someone is holding your head underwater, then you will be successful.'Revenge is a dish best served cold.' My husband asked me once what this meant. After a moment of thought, I shared what I thought it meant. I believe that when one is wronged, the pain (or anger, fury, etc) is red hot. When I am red hot, I can't see clearly. I can't think straight. This is not a good time to exact revenge because in my impulse to right the wrong, I can only do more damage.
Well, I've had time to cool down, I have examined all the things that lead to the wrong. I have examined my enemy and determined the best strategy to take him down. I can plot, I can prepare, I can learn and grow and get stronger. My enemy is unaware of the attack that I am mounting. He will not see me coming.
I am ready for revenge.